Ask for Help

Tip of the Week #5

Not only do you get the help you need on a project, asking for help actually makes you more likeable...or so says the idea behind the Ben Franklin effect.

The Ben Franklin effect "is a proposed psychological phenomenon: a person who has already performed a favor for another is more likely to do another favor for the other than if they had received a favor from that person."

The simplified version?

When someone has helped you in the past, they are more likely to help you in the future. And people like to help others, especially when you ask someone to help you learn a new task, tackle a difficult problem or just shoulder the load, literally and figuratively.

The trouble is, most people hate asking for help.

It's humbling or even embarrassing to admit we don't know something or can't complete a task on our own. Our culture's highly individualistic mindset can keep us from some of our best work if it keeps us from asking for help.

How true is this for you?

When is the last time you asked for help at work? Home? To learn a new skill or trade?

Me? I'm asking for a LOT of help lately as we recently moved into a new house. I'm terrible at home decor, but some of my friends are fantastic at creating a cozy, livable, attractive space. So I'm asking for help. And guess what? They're happy to give it.

Professionally, I'm seeking out help from a coach to work through a sticky spot in my business. Slowly, but surely, I'm working through it.

But it wouldn't happen without help.

What about you?

What is your relationship with asking for help?

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